This #Last90Days challenge has been really great to help me focus on my goals and where I want to go in life. And something that has been a big focus of mine is self care.
Self care is incredibly important to anyone’s mental health. It’s something that a lot of people put on the back burner because it seems selfish to think of yourself. But it’s not selfish AT ALL. It’s healthy.
For many, self care may be physical things, like….
- Getting a massage
- Taking a bath
- Reading a good book
- Watching a funny movie
- Listening to music
- Playing video games
- Visiting with someone you love
And all of that stuff is GREAT!! But a lot of times, self care can be more emotionally/mentally focused. Things like…
- Deleting toxic people from your life
- Doing a social media detox
- Unfollowing people on social media who make you feel bad
- Making a change in your fitness or health
- Breaking a bad habit
There is nothing wrong with wanting to do any of those. I had to stop following a fitness group on Facebook a few months ago because, while the group is very uplifting and supportive, I was feeling anxious and frustrated with myself for not accomplishing things as fast or as well as the others in the group. I was holding myself to standards that I wasn’t able to meet, nor did I even WANT to meet them. But I was doing it anyway. I’m still in the group but I just stopped getting the notifications.
Almost instantly, I felt the pressure and anxiety that had been building up in my chest leave my body. I felt relaxed and I was clearly able to see what was causing this: that Facebook group. Comparison takes away all your joy. It is a devilish thing that sucks you dry. When you can realize that you are comparing yourself to someone/a group of people/standards you’ve set for yourself and you ACTIVELY do something about it to stop it….that is some pretty great self care.